There's a distinction between people I sometimes want to make, roughly speaking between the kind of person I would like to be friends with, and the kind of person I don't want to be around and honestly would prefer didn't exist at all, harsh as that sounds; not that I want the actual people to die or anything, I just wish that people in general would not be like that.
When I articulate my disdain for the latter type of person, people sometimes call that "classist". But I am still desperately trying to claw my own way out of the lower class myself, economically speaking, and my disdain has nothing at all to do with wealth or income, and in fact is amplified when the target of this disdain is wealthy, so I would not call the distinction I'm trying to make one of class in any reasonable economic sense.
However, "classy" does sound like a fine descriptor of the kind of person I would like to befriend, in a sense that doesn't imply anything about wealth -- I've met literally homeless people who I would describe as "classy" in this sense -- so I'm wondering if there is perhaps some kind of adjective I could use to distinguish between economic class, which is the first thing that comes to my mind when someone says "class", and some other kind of "class". "Social class" is the first other kind of "class" that pops into my mind, but that to my ear suggests something still closer to economic class than to what I'm trying to describe.
The kind of person on the "low" end of this type of "class" (or whatever) I'm looking to describe is, archetypically (or stereotypically?), someone who smokes and drinks a lot and likes to hang out at bars making lots of noise about the sports on TV there, someone highly competitive, who actively disdains intellectual pursuits and is fond of conspicuous consumption showing off whatever wealth they might have, be it flashy brand-name clothes and jewelry, to loud sports cars and motorcycles, to boats and RVs and such "decorating" their driveways.
The kind of person on the "high" end of this type of "class" (or whatever) I'm looking to describe is, on the other hand, someone clean and quiet, sober and unobtrusive, modest even, with an interest in cooperatively learning and creating things.
To be clear I'm not saying that everyone who drinks or likes sports or whatever is at one end of this spectrum I'm trying to articulate, and unathletic teetotalers are at the other, or anything like that. I'm just trying to paint a rough picture for illustration.
I don't know how to end this post.