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Postby Zohar » Sun Nov 29, 2009 12:32 pm UTC

My favorite is the 2nd one. The first is a bit loud, IMO.
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Postby Flightless_bird » Sun Nov 29, 2009 12:43 pm UTC

The last one is perfect!
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Postby GraphiteGirl » Sun Nov 29, 2009 1:21 pm UTC

I like the last 2, although depending on the atmosphere at your office the second one might have the more office-suitable neckline.
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Postby bluebambue » Sun Nov 29, 2009 1:21 pm UTC

I like the last one best as well.

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Postby blue_eyedspacemonkey » Sun Nov 29, 2009 2:46 pm UTC

The last 2 are pretty-I adore the middle one :)
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Postby semicharmed » Sun Nov 29, 2009 2:57 pm UTC

I love them all, you have fantastic taste in clothing. If I had to choose, though, I'd probably go for the first.

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Postby existential_elevator » Sun Nov 29, 2009 3:28 pm UTC

Flightless_bird wrote:The last one is perfect!

This! It looks the best on you!

Edit: I actually meant the first. The first is my favourite :shock: I fail at reading. They all look fab! The last and middle are also awesome :D
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Postby Apparently Anonymous » Sun Nov 29, 2009 3:36 pm UTC

Ok, it seems I'm a little bit too late to be on-topic, but here goes:
I'm a fairly fit teenage girl, exercise at least twice a week and always have been somewhat skinny(My BMI is currently 20,6 if that's of any interest, though that system is as mentioned very flawed). However, the last month and a half or so I've noticed that I've put on a bit of weight - my pants are tighter and my waistline isn't as defined as it used to be. Should I feel bad about wanting to lose that extra weight I've gained? 'Cause I do.

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Postby tin » Sun Nov 29, 2009 3:38 pm UTC

Looks like it's down to the last two. Thanks for your comments everyone. :)

I'm thinking of getting the last one, as I don't actually own any figure hugging dresses and it could probably double up as my New Years Eve dress. Although, I really like the 70's vibe of the second dress. Decisions, decisions!
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Postby Zohar » Sun Nov 29, 2009 3:38 pm UTC

You shouldn't feel bad, it's what you want. You're entitled to your own opinions. Even though BMI isn't a very good judge of weight, though, you still pretty slim. How old are you?
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Postby Apparently Anonymous » Sun Nov 29, 2009 8:36 pm UTC

Zohar wrote:You shouldn't feel bad, it's what you want. You're entitled to your own opinions. Even though BMI isn't a very good judge of weight, though, you still pretty slim. How old are you?

I'm 17.

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Postby Osha » Sun Nov 29, 2009 8:58 pm UTC

Don't worry about feeling bad about wanting to lose weight.
Our culture is filled to the brim of "get skinny!" messages, diet ads, peer pressure, all sorts of stuff, all demanding all women to be super thin.
It would be really hard not to internalize some of these messages and just be completely and totally happy with your body.
So yeah, it stinks, you seem to know on a conscious level that your body is perfectly fine right? I guess... concentrate on this instead of hating on yourself (yeah yeah, I know, easier said than done)
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Postby abitha » Sun Nov 29, 2009 9:09 pm UTC

Apparently Anonymous wrote:Ok, it seems I'm a little bit too late to be on-topic, but here goes:
I'm a fairly fit teenage girl, exercise at least twice a week and always have been somewhat skinny(My BMI is currently 20,6 if that's of any interest, though that system is as mentioned very flawed). However, the last month and a half or so I've noticed that I've put on a bit of weight - my pants are tighter and my waistline isn't as defined as it used to be. Should I feel bad about wanting to lose that extra weight I've gained? 'Cause I do.


Nobody "should" be made to feel bad about the weight/shape they are, but neither "should" anyone be made to feel bad for wanting to be a different weight/shape. The only possible exception to either of these is if it (either their weight, or their desire to change it) is having a serious detrimental effect on their health or quality of life - and even then, i'd be reluctant to say that they "should" feel bad about it, because what right does anyone else have to tell them what they should or shouldn't feel?

In any case, it sounds like the weight you are is absolutely fine and that you are healthy - so certainly don't let anyone else convince you that you need to look any different. But equally, there's no point labouring under false guilt about wanting to be slightly thinner, as long as you aren't obsessing over it or going to extremes to achieve it.

Sorry, that was a bit rambly but i hope it made some sense!

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Postby Apparently Anonymous » Sun Nov 29, 2009 9:10 pm UTC

Osha wrote:Don't worry about feeling bad about wanting to lose weight.
Our culture is filled to the brim of "get skinny!" messages, diet ads, peer pressure, all sorts of stuff, all demanding all women to be super thin.
It would be really hard not to internalize some of these messages and just be completely and totally happy with your body.
So yeah, it stinks, you seem to know on a conscious level that your body is perfectly fine right? I guess... concentrate on this instead of hating on yourself (yeah yeah, I know, easier said than done)
tl:dr; don't blame yourself for feeling bad, you'd have to be superhuman not to.

Oh, it's not exactly that I feel bad about getting influenced by the culture(though that of course isn't a great thing either). It's more like I'm thinking: "Oh, I've gained some weight. I liked my body better at the weight it was before. Perhaps I should watch what I eat (less high-calorie stuff, less carbs and more protein) and exercise more", while I know my friends/family would kill me if I told them that I was trying to lose weight.

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Postby Virtual_Aardvark » Sun Nov 29, 2009 9:18 pm UTC

There's nothing wrong with eating healthy and exercising more. There isn't anything wrong with wanting to lose weight as long as you remain healthy while doing so. If you want a shape that you know your body is capable of while still being healthy then go for it.
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Postby Rinsaikeru » Sun Nov 29, 2009 9:30 pm UTC

You shouldn't feel guilty about it at all--if you want to lose weight, and can do so healthily go for it, it's your body--and anyone who tries to tell you that you should be thinner or fatter is wrong. You know what's right for you, just make sure to take care of yourself.
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Postby Cammy » Sun Nov 29, 2009 11:13 pm UTC

I just found out I'm having an abnormal reaction to hormonal birth control pills. Is there any other form of effective birth control I can use besides the condoms that I use now? The doctor mentioned something about a IUD and instead of looking it up I'd rather hear about these kind of things from someone that might have used it. I'm 22 and want kids someday so nothing too permanent please.

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Postby Cassi » Sun Nov 29, 2009 11:26 pm UTC

I have a copper IUD, and I know quite a few others in this thread have them too -- it was pretty much due to people here talking about them that I looked into them and decided to get one for myself.

I've only had mine about a month, but have really had no problems with it. The insertion was pretty simple and mostly painless, and my last period was actually shorter than usual -- but I'd just come off the pill, so I'm not taking it as an indication of how it will be. My IUD is good for 10 years, but they do vary. They can be taken out at any point, however, and you'll be pretty much straight back to normal fertility...to the point where apparently if you're getting it taken out and not having a new one put in, you shouldn't have sex without a condom for a week beforehand as the sperm could still be present and viable. (That may be different for the hormonal one, I don't know anything about it; I went on the IUD partially to move completely away from hormones.)

I know you're not in the UK, but I found the NHS page on IUDs to give a pretty helpful overview (it's what I linked my mum to when I emailed her to tell her I was considering one): http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Intrauteri ... ction.aspx

I am sure more people will be along soon with possibly more helpful information!
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Postby Cammy » Sun Nov 29, 2009 11:32 pm UTC

Sweet. Thanks! I was kind of scared when all hormonal birth control was a no no for me. At first I thought IUD's made you infertile without the ability to change that until the whatever many years were up.

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Postby eliana » Mon Nov 30, 2009 5:03 am UTC

CS is such a male-dominated field, and so I always feel competitive, like I have to pretend I already know everything to prove that I am not weak, I'm not one of *those* girls. I am in college, and it really seems like none of the other girls are into nerdiness or xkcd or extra-curricular pursuit of mathematics or code. The other frosh and soph CS girls tend be at the level of not knowing mv or rmdir or cp, or essentially understanding recursion, or learning outside of the curriculum. I'm not saying they're dumb, it seems that their intellectual curiosity must lie outside of the field.

So I find myself surrounded by boys who are used to girls not knowing anything. And it sucks because everything becomes so gendered. And i get tense and angry and overwhelmed, and I feel like it's my responsibility to learn everything, to change this pattern, and to never ever ask for help.

Does anyone else feel this way? I get worried sometimes that I'm more motivated by proving...something than I am by knowledge itself. How do you deal with it?

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Postby mochafairy » Mon Nov 30, 2009 6:48 am UTC

eliana wrote:CS is such a male-dominated field, and so I always feel competitive, like I have to pretend I already know everything to prove that I am not weak, I'm not one of *those* girls. I am in college, and it really seems like none of the other girls are into nerdiness or xkcd or extra-curricular pursuit of mathematics or code. The other frosh and soph CS girls tend be at the level of not knowing mv or rmdir or cp, or essentially understanding recursion, or learning outside of the curriculum. I'm not saying they're dumb, it seems that their intellectual curiosity must lie outside of the field.

So I find myself surrounded by boys who are used to girls not knowing anything. And it sucks because everything becomes so gendered. And i get tense and angry and overwhelmed, and I feel like it's my responsibility to learn everything, to change this pattern, and to never ever ask for help.

Does anyone else feel this way? I get worried sometimes that I'm more motivated by proving...something than I am by knowledge itself. How do you deal with it?


I'm in a male dominated field, such as CS or engineering, it's fairly normal to feel this way. By sophomore year, I found that about half the girls had switched majors. By junior year, it's to the point where I'm the only girl who consistently shows up to a class, or maybe one or two others show up for major related courses. The guys are often total jackasses (Osha and others have heard stories...). They've gotten better over the past few years, but sometimes the things that come out of their mouths make me wonder if I really, really, really want to continue in my field.

I've turned my "I have something to prove" into "I'm kicking ass and not taking prisoners." I do take pleasure in scoring higher, doing better, being smarter...but this is more of a side attraction for me. Some of the males in my class feel they are some deity's gift to man kind in my class...and little do they know that I've beat them on every test. I've found that, at least with the guys in my classes, putting them in their place makes for a more hostile environment. (I will tell them off when they say something stupid if the comments didn't leave me utterly speechless, but it's about choosing you're battles and whether glaring/silent treatment will work better, or some other "you royally fucked this one up, dude-bro" mechanism)

My boyfriend, who is also in engineering, said that many guys act like total jerks because you're threatening them by joining the "all boys club" and that is part of the reason. May guys hate being beaten by a girl, especially in a field where they dominate (and not in the sense that they're better, but there are just more of them).

Anyway, I've also found that the more specialized my classes have become, the more I enjoy the learning part, and the grading becomes the side show.

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Postby sophyturtle » Mon Nov 30, 2009 7:22 am UTC

I just wanted to add one more to the "IUD FTW" group. I have had mine for almost 2 years, and between my keeper and the IUD I am more pleased with my lady bits than I have ever been before. Also, I like the sponges.

Not everyone is good with IUDs. They can cause big cramps and heavy flow, and a friend has had this problem (but I have not, different bodies and such). Condoms should still be used to prevent STIs, which can lead tot he infertility thing what with the constantly open cervix and all. Still, I love mine, it saves me money, and there is no waste involved.
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Postby Apparently Anonymous » Mon Nov 30, 2009 9:44 am UTC

Thanks for the advice and support, guys! :)

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Postby smw543 » Mon Nov 30, 2009 10:12 am UTC

eliana wrote:CS is such a male-dominated field, and so I always feel competitive, like I have to pretend I already know everything to prove that I am not weak, I'm not one of *those* girls. I am in college, and it really seems like none of the other girls are into nerdiness or xkcd or extra-curricular pursuit of mathematics or code. The other frosh and soph CS girls tend be at the level of not knowing mv or rmdir or cp, or essentially understanding recursion, or learning outside of the curriculum. I'm not saying they're dumb, it seems that their intellectual curiosity must lie outside of the field.

Something mochafairy got at was how girls are discouraged from fields like CS. While this often means that they won't even take interest, it can also result in them simply not talking about an interest.

While admittedly nowhere near as bad, I've experienced what you've described on the other side: I'm a male English (Creative Writing) major. In my advanced nonfiction workshop, I'm one of only three guys in an 18-person class, and all but one of the writing professors at my school are women. And similar to the part of your post that I quoted, you could easily know a guy for years without finding out he likes poetry, because "poetry is for girls." Usually they're too ingrained with the idea to change their mind, but occasionally, you'll find a girl who already does programming as a hobby, but was simply conditioned not to mention it (lest she be labeled unfeminine, or something).
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Postby bluebambue » Mon Nov 30, 2009 1:23 pm UTC

hugs and encouragement for eliana. I'm sorry that the people in your school are like that. Hopefully you will be able to change their views.

A small rant on a new subject: I've lost a bit fat recently (maybe about 3 lbs, I don't own a scale) and a most of it came off of my tummy, which I am pleased about. However, this has made it really hard to find flattering clothing. I am rather large chested and have been unable to find shirts that fit around my chest and show off my belly. The empire waist shirts that have previously hidden my slightly pudgy middle now hide my sexy curvy one. I just want some t-shirts that are built for curves :evil:

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Postby Cammy » Mon Nov 30, 2009 1:32 pm UTC

Where are you? Do you have a Ricki's? I find they have a lot of flattering stuff there. Even for large chests.

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Postby Mmmm, Pi » Mon Nov 30, 2009 1:36 pm UTC

I'm another engineering student here, this time in chem eng. I'm in a class of about 70:30 men to women, so it's not as bad as it can be, but I've had to really fight against sexist jokes and comments for two years. This year as the main two guys who generally started it are spending a year studying abroad, it's been a lot easier for me.

In my computing class in first year I was the only woman in the room and was treated reasonably by the guys, but that was mainly once they realised that I was one of the best programmers in the room.
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Postby Sungura » Mon Nov 30, 2009 1:38 pm UTC

How did you loose the 3 pounds off your tummy? /is curious...as the one thing I would like to change about my body is making my tummy/waist a bit slimmer. Silly omentum! I have been doing tabletops and such to build muscle and such, and that seems to be helping actually (I have gotten two comments lately, "Did you lose some weight?" I haven't actually, but I do feel like I look a bit thinner there...but not where I'd like it to be)

Dresses: I like the 2nd one best, but I do like the last one...I myself am not comfortable in a neckline like the last one has which is probably why I like it less, so if you took that out of the equation...they are both about equal between the 2nd and last one.

Fields of study: I did my undergrad in biochemistry and applied mathematics. The math courses were about 50/50 male:female, and the biochem courses dominantly female in composition. Which maybe is odd...but honestly I did not run into the gender stereotypes at my university. If anything, the gals were considered smarter and all the guys wanted to study with us. Then again, the top grades in most the courses were held by the group of people I hung with - four other gals (and in *one* class, myself, which I was just happy to beat K, because we had a friendly rivalry going on, teehee). Now, the interesting thing comes in - a lot our courses the premed take, or people did biochem and then went on to med school, that sort of thing. When we graduated, more the males went to med school, whereas more of the females went into graduate school to work on Masters/PhDs. Not really sure if that is "gendered" though because both are higher education and the group I was with mainly, we just did not like working with people and were lab rats by nature, and the guys were vice-versa, so I think that was more personality over anything else.
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Postby Delalyra » Mon Nov 30, 2009 2:04 pm UTC

mochafairy wrote:(fyi, I'm in electrical engineering and my boyfriend is a grad student in aae)
My mom was an electrical engineer. Rock on. :)

Sometimes I feel like I've wasted... my potential, my aptitude for being an angry feminist, by not going into a male-dominated field. I'm in psychology; my classes here are full of mostly women, and most of the professors are women. According to the APA,in 2005 72% of PhDs and PsyDs were women. I will most likely be one of them in a few years.

I considered going into CS, because I liked it a lot, but I never did.
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Postby Jessica » Mon Nov 30, 2009 2:36 pm UTC

I wish I'd gone into psychology instead of CS. Of course, presenting as male, the male dominated field thing didn't bug me. In fact, presenting as male allowed me to use male privilege to get a degree. which is unfortunate.

But, I feel it now that I've transitioned at work. Being the only woman on the hotline is kind of weird.
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Postby sophyturtle » Mon Nov 30, 2009 2:45 pm UTC

I do science, and in co-ed college (even one with a 6:1 female :male ratio) at least half of the classes were made up of males. I opted for a woman's college to finish my undergrad because I wanted to stop feeling like I had to prove something because I am female. So in my CS class, the one male was odd (he was a student from a college with class exchanges with ours).
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Postby Flightless_bird » Mon Nov 30, 2009 3:06 pm UTC

Delalyra wrote:
mochafairy wrote:(fyi, I'm in electrical engineering and my boyfriend is a grad student in aae)
My mom was an electrical engineer. Rock on. :)

Sometimes I feel like I've wasted... my potential, my aptitude for being an angry feminist, by not going into a male-dominated field. I'm in psychology; my classes here are full of mostly women, and most of the professors are women. According to the APA,in 2005 72% of PhDs and PsyDs were women. I will most likely be one of them in a few years.

I considered going into CS, because I liked it a lot, but I never did.



If you like what you're doing you shouldn't feel like that. The important thing is to not let people mark you because of something you.

I'm in a "nature science" class. It's how they are divided, we put a lot of energy on biology, chemistry, physics and mathematics. Anyway three years ago a class like this would have three girls and about 20-25 guys. And now it's about 50-50 which is really good :)
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Postby bluebambue » Mon Nov 30, 2009 3:13 pm UTC

cammy: sadly it looks as though ricki's is only in Canada. I'm currently in London, but am usually in Seattle or LA. I looked at the website and they had a lot of stuff I think would look really good on me :(

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Postby podbaydoor » Mon Nov 30, 2009 3:48 pm UTC

@eliana: I did a minor in IT and was usually one of less than 5 females per class in the programming classes. Mostly I kept quiet so I didn't run into trouble either way, but I never asked for help either - from classmates or the professor. I felt like I failed all women like you or Sungura (the "serious" ones) or was playing into female stereotypes if I ever admitted that I needed help. Luckily it was only a minor so I never progressed to the more difficult classes where I would've been actually way in over my head.
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - #sharkweek on irc.foonetic.net

Postby Lizabeff » Mon Nov 30, 2009 5:52 pm UTC

I am currently doing IT and am one of 2 females in the class. Mostly, the guys in my class are okay but the teacher really gets on my nerves. He constantly comes over and asks if I'm doing okay, or if I need help, and then whenever he's addressing the class and is like 'Okay guys' he always adds 'and girls' as an afterthought. It really pisses me off because it makes me feel like really seperated from the other guys. And /rant

Also, dress no. 2 =]

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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - #sharkweek on irc.foonetic.net

Postby crickets » Mon Nov 30, 2009 5:59 pm UTC

On a somewhat related topic:

The Dean at my former university just got in a shwack of trouble for saying that male enrollment has dropped off severely, and that they need to encourage young males to start taking university classes. See, given that i was in an arts program, i've encountered some classes where it was, quite literally, 90% female. Even my current program has thirty women and five guys.
I'm pretty sure it wasn't a case of what she said, but how she said it. Because being the only man in a class full of women, taught by a woman, has got to be kind of intimidating. It seems to be a never ending cycle in that regard.
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - #sharkweek on irc.foonetic.net

Postby PictureSarah » Mon Nov 30, 2009 6:14 pm UTC

My school was 78% female, and I had several classes where there were no men. At all. In the entire 4 years I was there, I had one class that had more men than women (Art History of Mexico City, oddly), and 4 other classes that probably had a pretty even split (one was a large-format class, which is very technical, and the other three were non-major specific humanities or low-level science that everyone had to take).
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - #sharkweek on irc.foonetic.net

Postby podbaydoor » Mon Nov 30, 2009 6:45 pm UTC

Forgot to add for tin: Dress #2 for the office party. Dress #3 is fabulous and my favorite but it seems a little...much for a staid office party. Great for other parties, though!
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - #sharkweek on irc.foonetic.net

Postby tin » Mon Nov 30, 2009 8:28 pm UTC

Ha. I should clarify, when I say office christmas party it's actually more like 'super relaxed animation studio where we have Mario Kart hour on a Fridays'. We don't really have a dress code for work so there isn't really one for Drunken Times.

Cheers everyone, for the continued input into Tin's Dress Saga '09. It is turning into a bit of a quest (curse my need to balance sexiness with cost and practicality!). I actually saw another dress I liked today, which is so sexy, I will be breaking some sort of law if I don't buy it. I'm going to try it on tomorrow and see if the others are still available to peruse.

Regarding male and female ratios in uni: I went to an arts campus of a larger university and strangely enough, there were more males than females on all of the courses. I feel this had something to do with the majority of the courses on the campus dealing with "techy" arts vocations, such as Games Design and Interactive Multimedia Design.
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - #sharkweek on irc.foonetic.net

Postby Cassi » Mon Nov 30, 2009 8:30 pm UTC

I have no idea the gender split at my uni...I know my college has more females, probably because it is self-catered and en-suite. I think my psychology lectures have more females, though I have more male lecturers this year...not sure about philosophy lectures. I will possibly have to start paying attention to this. All my philosophy lecturers this year are male...I had one female lecturer for philosophy last year, but it was only for part of one module.
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