Shivahn wrote: kinigget wrote:
To get to the root of the question, can I turn this one around? For those whose gender didn't align with society's expectations, or who don't feel that they belong to any particular gender, are you able to put into words why that might be? There are a lot of guys that I don't like at all, and then there are a lot of guys that I feel to share an understanding with. That's the best reason I can give for thinking of myself as male. Am I overlooking something that I take for granted in identifying with other men?
Actually, you more or less just answered your own question. There isn't really a definable "why", at least not for me. I don't actually strongly identify with any gender, but I would much prefer to be a girl. That said, I couldn't exactly tell you why this is, but the feeling is there nonetheless. I don't think I'm really explaining this very well, but hey, something is better than nothing right?
... I will second that. I have trouble identifying as anything, and putting pronouns on myself feels either wrong or disheartening, but would much rather have been born with the internal machinery. That would just be... better, and there's no way to explain it other than a vague feeling that something should have been different.
I'm going to third this -- and whoever said that thing earlier to this effect.
I don't identify as female. Physically, I am female. Mentally, I'd have to say I identify as tomboy androgynous. I have always wanted to be male, but recognized that even as a child, it was because being male had some inherent advantages. I only had male friends, for the most part, as a child and found female emotions (as expressed by girls my age) trite and annoying and hard as hell to understand/predict. As I grew up, I acquired curves that would not hide my gender and I despaired. As I began to experience physical intimacy, I've found I thought something was missing... "mechanically" (if you will) on my end.
However, I'm comfortable with my body and it's advantages and disadvantages (okay, maybe not the disadvantages). I don't know what this means other than I don't want to actively seek changing it. I also don't feel comfortable enough with my determination in the strongly feminist or actively masculine topic (as I still don't know) to want to change my pronouns. I'm okay with gender simply not mattering to me, in my sexual preferences and my own self perceptions.
Can I say why this is? Nope. I may just be rebelling against social constraints. All I know is that I started this very young, to the point of rejecting any other color than blue as my favorite as it is the boy's color.